Tuesday, 11 October 2022

It boils down to choice: Coping with adversity

Life is the giver; life is the taker; life is the teacher; life is the lesson; and one should never lose the lesson. Life is cruel with bittersweet and sour blows; life is astonishing, majestic and impressive; life is good; to live is the blessing; life is the thin line between good and evil. And that is where the choice stand erected.

See, we are human beings who are living the real life in the real world. And the reality of the real life - within the reality of the real world - surpasses every human morale, ethic and value. Human beings are just imperfect mortals who are susceptible to any form of immorality. And due to imperfection, temptations are normally not easy to resist. That lives the burden to the individual to make a choice between the right and the wrong.

People of African ancestry had been bullied, battered and bruised over many centuries by the Arabs and Caucasians. And they were offered religion in the form of Islam and Christianity as the opium and relief; something to be observed and be bowed on in times of grief. They had been robbed of anything that gives them value and dignity; and thus, they were subjected into slavery globally.

From generation to generation, they had to suffer the indignity of servitude to others. Their offspring had to grow up with little or nothing, from generation to generation like cancer, as if that was naturally implanted to their DNA, or divinely ordained. That is something that naturally triggers the mind to be corrupt – hence being denied of the best things that life has to offer - due to the lack of access and privileges – can naturally subject one to want more – with enormous amount of greed. And greed prohibits one from making good choices.

That has generated vast corruption in business, sport, organisations, churches, politics and government globally over many years – hence greed knows no race, creed and nationality. But it is astonishing when corruption is being practiced by people who had been denied, ridiculed and subjected to servitude - over others who had suffered the same fate in the past – when those people assume leadership positions in any spheres of life. I guess that it boils down to choice, as greed can be controlled through the act of good deeds from good choices.

Is it simple for one to make good choices, and do good all the time, when one has been subjected to enormous poverty and deniability for all his/her life? It is very hard to fight temptations, particularly when one has a lot of dependents; and also, the extended family structures that are looking up to him/her (black tax). There is too much pressure that beset people of colour. And black people, particularly in the townships, are growing up witnessing a lot of hypocrisy from elderly people. People lie, cheat and swindle; breaking rules, procedures and processes to get things in their favour.

Life is cruel with the ability of turning a good man into a bad man; a saint into sinner; it all depends on one’s experiences; and how one chooses to deal with different circumstances. When the reality of the real world gets real, it gets real for everybody. That goes for men of cloth, political leaders, business leaders, community builders, trusted community elders and change agents.

People are sometimes losing the sense and essence of who they real are. People lose characters and control. As the legendary poet Mzwakhe Mbuli had plainly put it on one of his poems in Zulu: “Ukulimala kwengqondo, kukulimala komuntu; ukulimala komuntu, kukulimala komphakathi; ukulimala komphakathi kukulimala kwesizwe”. Loosely translated as: “The damaged mind is the damaged soul; the damaged soul is the damaged community; the damaged community is the damaged nation”. The mind is capable of building and destroying, as human beings are biblically stated to be made in the image of God. It all boils down to choice.